Loving Blind
They say love is blind.
I don't think that's true.
I think love sees everything—
the cracks,
the excuses,
the trembling hands,
the promises stitched together with loose thread...
and whispers,
"Maybe this time."
Because loving blind isn't about missing the warning signs.
It's about believing
they're just temporary.
It's convincing yourself
that red flags are only sunsets
if you squint hard enough.
It's saying,
"I know who they could be,"
while slowly forgetting
who you've always been.
But...
God,
there is something beautiful
about loving without armor.
About handing someone your heartbeat
before asking if they know
how fragile it is.
Because sometimes…
they do.
Sometimes they hold it
like it's the last warm thing
left in the world.
Sometimes they memorize
the language of your silence,
kiss the corners
where your anxiety hides,
and somehow...
make breathing feel less like surviving.
That's the danger.
The same blindness
that lets you fall
is the blindness
that lets someone catch you.
Or drop you.
There is no guarantee.
Love has never signed contracts.
It only asks,
"Are you willing?"
And we are.
Again.
and Again.
and Again.
Until one day
you wake up
and realize you've been setting yourself on fire
just to keep someone else warm.
And ashes…
don't hug back.
That's the ugly side.
The side where your reflection
starts looking like a stranger
because you've spent so long
becoming everything
except yourself.
Where "I'm okay"
becomes the most practiced lie
you've ever told.
Where loyalty
turns into self-abandonment
wearing a prettier name.
But here's what nobody tells you.
The answer isn't to stop loving.
It isn't to build walls so high
that nothing hurts.
Because nothing hurts in empty rooms.
Nothing grows there either.
The lesson…
isn't to love less.
It's to love
with your eyes open.
To choose someone
who doesn't ask you
to shrink
so they can feel bigger.
Someone who treats your heart
like a home,
not a hotel.
Because real love
doesn't need blindness.
It needs courage.
The courage to see someone
exactly as they are...
and still choose them.
The courage to let someone
see every imperfect piece of you...
and walk away
if they choose to break
what they promised to protect.
Maybe that's what growing up is.
Realizing love isn't blind.
We are.
Until experience
teaches our eyes
how to stay open...
without teaching our hearts
how to close.
Simona A. Brinson
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